Fake it ‘til ya make it

I’ve finally realized that I don’t post or comment in a lot of situations because of some weird internet form of perfection anxiety and timidity.

I go through about 42 iterations of “Am I saying anything that is of value to anyone”, “Could this possibly be news to anyone or have they all already solved this / been there / done that?”, “I’m not going to complain about this, everybody goes through this.”, and a million other internal judgements before I either just don’t post or I decide “Whatever, nobody knows about my little blog anyway.”. I’m constantly thinking, worrying, planning, wondering about training, but I rarely ever post because I always feel like if I can’t spend the time that I want at the task, for example making a readable blog post with reasonable punctuation (should I have used a semicolon there?), then I just shouldn’t post at all. I mean, every little blog post doesn't have to single-handedly define and represent me as a person for crying out loud. I just need to get over it. Where is my Tyler Durden?

Another thing that stops me from posting is that I’ve trained so little BJJ since last November because of injury (sternoclavicular separation) and issue (Lumbar disc compression = ick nerve). I got over the injury and now I’m just working on coming back from the weakness; hey, I can do 5 whole pushups. I’ve been working on the Lumbar issue...and I may be hallucinating or it may be improving ever so slightly, ever so slowly. Anyway, because I haven’t trained BJJ regularly in so long, I start to feel like, well, like an imposter, like a poser, when I want to be involved still in the jits community. I know, I know, that’s stupid. We all get injured or have downtimes and they don’t revoke our belt, right?

Screw it, I’m going to break all of my own rules in an effort to...to what exactly....to put what I feel out there. Mostly so that when I communicate with someone (via the internet), they can have a sense of who I am. Grok me? I mean, if some of the blogs that I read regularly had never blogged I would still be trying to figure out a number of things related to BJJ, some CrossFit, nutrition, mobility, etc. And I wouldn’t have made some great friends. And one day, when I get my jitsabbatical on, I’ll have a couch or two to crash on.

I found BJJ and I got pulled in (avoiding the swept up pun, poorly) right away. I loved wrestling with my dad when I was a kid. He used to tell me that monkeys that didn’t get enough contact got lonely and depressed and that we weren’t going to be lonely monkeys. My mom wasn’t the wrestling type and probably spent years nagging my dad to be careful. I’m pretty sure he wanted a boy. She wanted a girl. They both won and both lost. They got a girl that can’t stand dresses...or pink...or barbie.
In addition to the overwhelming number of BJJ videos on youtube, I also found the blogger “network” and I read bits and pieces of my own story, concerns, and issues reflected in a number of different places. I believe that Valerie Worthington’s blog is the first one that I found, actually via an article on CrossFit and BJJ, and I read the blog literally straight through, like a book. *That* is an introduction to BJJ. It’s like, “Hello, welcome to BJJ. Would you like to sell your house, quit your job, and couch surf the country training BJJ now or would you like to put that off until slightly later?”. I had to take a seriously deep breath and remind myself that as a brand spankin’ new white belt, with like 6 months training, it was highly unlikely that following in those Valhalla footsteps would have good R.O.I. for me at such an early stage. I keep telling myself I can do that trip when I’m a fresh purple to really get the most out of it. Who knows, it is debatable, highly debatable, at what stage a jitsabbatical would best serve a person. I assume that being in your own personal best physical shape would help wring the most technical bang for your buck out of such travels. That is factored into my plan [dream/concept].
Shortly thereafter I found Georgette, slideyfoot, BJJGrrl, A.D. McClish, Dev (and many, many more great bloggers) and all the good advice out there about training, competition nerves, ego-less improvement, etc. Thank you guys, thank you all. Know that there are new people out there reading even when they don’t follow or post or contact you. They’re there and tomorrow somewhere someone will walk into a BJJ school for their first time or for their 30th with at least one new concept in their head. Recently I found Dagney Taggert’s blog (best.blogname.ever, spelling mod on purpose), which is fascinating to me because she sounds like the truly positive mental spirit (like A.D. McClish, above)...unlike myself. I don’t feel like "I can do anything". I feel like "I should be telling myself I can do anything." So, one of my topics lately is how to get from telling myself that I can do anything to just *feeling* like I can do anything. I’m thinking it’s a learned skill. I shall keep running in the morning, going to CrossFit after work, researching nutrition and leaning toward Paleo, (stopped wheat already). I’m thinking that in the short term I’m gonna fake it ‘til I make it.
I can do 5 real pushups. In February I couldn’t do 1 pushup. In May/June I could do 2 pushups. I’m trying not to feel sorry for myself, but it sneaks in. I feel guilty when I feel sorry for myself...super guilty. I keep telling myself to JUST KEEP DOING THE WORK. That is where blogs come in handy. I follow you guys’ progress and love of the sport and it keeps me in touch with jits and with how I feel about jits. I’ve thought lately about going back, but I don’t want to have a stutter start. I’ve been back just enough this year (May/June) to get promoted to Blue, but my new Blue belt is just that...crispy. It’s taunting me...”I’m so crispy, what’s wrong with you?”. Wow.
I was thinking that I should set a couple of CrossFit type goals (pushups, FGB score, etc) and once I make those CrossFit goals then I can go back to jits. Having that specific barrier to entry will keep me from constantly guessing whether I should go to jits now or keep getting stronger first, etc. It’s not a trick question; for me the answer is get stronger first (specifically core) to protect my Lumbar discs and facets. The minute I step back on the mat it will be the instant rampup that it was last year and it will start out with 1 hour classes, then work its way up to 3 hours at a time. That wouldn’t be smart with Vertebrae and facets grinding on each other. So, I’m brainstorming (and taking suggestions) for my goals that I have to hit in order to go back to Jits. For example, 5 pushups ain’t gonna get me far in jits (and protecting the Lumbar), so I definitely need to pick the magic pushup number to shoot for. I’m thinking a minimum Plank hold time would be good...maybe 4 minutes...more? Maybe a specific “Fight Gone Bad” score and...

Fakin’ it ‘til I make it...

CrossFit works...

I have no idea how this equates in the real world, but I've been struggling for months to break 28 minutes on my treadmill 2 mile time (at 1.5 incline). The other day I hit 26:46 and this morning 26:36, but I haven't been putting in a lot of mileage. I am convinced it is the CrossFit that is improving my run time. Yay for one little stepping stone and yay for CrossFit. I followed that up with my P.T.'s circuit of strength exercises for my back and I'm experiencing the anti-depressant properties of the a.m. workout right now. :)

CrossFit Clean (with the ball) / working to get back to jits

I had that little tiny moment in CrossFit this morning of finally feeling the basic concept of a Clean. Granted it was with the ball only. I think that my shoulder is finally loose enough to actually get a shrug and the ball seemed like an easier way to learn it. I have had little to no luck learning it with the bar.

It feels great when you've shrugged it enough to get that moment in time where the ball is at the top of its arc and you're able to get under it cleanly. It was awesome. And the timing was perfect because I was just starting to feel too uncoordinated to ever succeed at some of the Oly lifts. :)

I'm in this phase where I REALLY want to go back to Jiu-Jitsu, but I've really got to strengthen and stretch my back and tighten up my core first. I don't want to have a stutter-start at jits. I just want to do the work to make a good athletic foundation and then go back. Impatient.